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Is there any difference between having a Marriage Certificate or living in a de-facto relationship?

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I used to think there was but it is just as easy to leave with a certificate as without it...or just as hard. It is the same process when splitting.

However, I always thought I felt more secure and committed with a certificate, but not quite sure why.

Either you are fully committed or not - a piece of paper does not really make a difference, and I now think it was my own insecurities that wanted that certificate in the last relationship.

Nowadays if I were in a relationship, it would not bother me either way.
by Finy
These days not really, legally. Having kids together (on purpose) is a bigger committment than marriage anyway.
As the picture of the certificate states...."Holy Matrimony".
One is married in the eyes of God....the other is not.
I'm with wotsy and jonaj. For me, marriage and living in a de-facto relationship are different.
by Vee
I think there comes a point where you just forget that you're not married and it becomes a bit of a joke when somebody says "your wife" or "your husband" and you go . . "Oh. That's right, we're not!" After 33 and 27 years respectively, we figure 60 years is enough for anyone. These days the law is very different and I think people feel a bit more secure even without that piece of paper. Certainly, after a certain age, it seems to become less important.
by Rice
Yes....to me there is and always will be, a huge difference.

But it would take a lot to write about .... so for now I shall just leave my answer as is.
My ex and I lived de facto for 2 years before we got legally married.It never felt any different really,as we truly loved each other so much in both situations.but we got married because we wanted to have a child who was born into a marriage. Just old-fashioned where that one aspect was concerned,I guess!! Anyway,the relationship ended after 11 years together and whether we had been living de facto or as a married couple,the breakdown would have been just as traumatic either way.. I have never wanted to either remarry or get into a de facto relationship again as I am far more content by myself.I do not feel there is a huge difference these days,unless it is a personally spiritual one.
It's just a piece of paper when all said and done.
In theory there is no difference. Legally both parties are treated the same one the relationship breaks down. I suppose the only difference is the level of commitment. When I was younger, I could not wait to get that marriage certificate as an ultimate declaration of love and commitment. I am glad to be married and wouldn't have it any other way. For people with a poor track record with relationships, it probably would be better to live as de factos. Personally I don't understand de facto relationships. Marriage is a fairly recent phenomenon, despite what the bible says., and it mainly came about due to wanting property, and it was mainly in the upper classes. That way, if the relationship broke down, the husband would get a fair chunk of his wifes wealth and property. Wealth and property were very important possessions and were tantamount to greater power for the aristocrats. Bit of trivia. Personally, I couldn't have children outside of a wedded relationship. There needs to be commitment and security for the parents and the children.
Yes, not so much in just having a Marriage Certificate, it is however the words that go with the certificate.
To love and to hold until death us do part.
There is a real sense of commitment when taking ones vows, but in a de-facto relationship I feel there is not a full sense of commitment..
This can of course also happen when those who get married take their vows lightly.

I don't think there really is much difference but I prefer being married
by AJ
what I object to is people referring to husband or wife as their partner, also the word hubby, maybe I am old fashioned.
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