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Is it okay to take the centrepiece home from a wedding?

by Lydia C. Lee (follow)
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I read an article on etiquette at weddings and one of the things that they listed as a big 'don't' was taking the floral centrepiece home at the end of the night. I was really quite stunned.

We spent a small fortune on flowers at our wedding, and I would much rather my friends and family had the flowers rather than having them left behind and thrown in the bin.

So is it bad form to take the flowers?

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If it is your wedding, you paid for the flowers ect...you can do what-ever-you like.

If like me, you go to a wedding...and say''humm I would like that bunch or centrepiece''.....yes that is a big no-no.

I was lucky, one of the Bridesmaids took each C-P to give to family 'Nana's ect', before I got my mits on it!

But....if no one does take any flowers right at the very very end, you may ask if you can have one(but only one).
I don't know 'why' I even thought I could take one?..a moment of madness#!*

That's strange. I think it's quite common to take the centrepiece home. I did that in my cousin's wedding and no one objected.
If the couple invite you too, sure. If not, I would say not. I would rather guests took home the flowers from my wedding than have them thrown away but as a guest I wouldn't take them unless invited to.
normally, it is part of the understanding that centerpieces can be taken, but asking can never hurt. I remember attending a wedding where the centerpiece was a beautiful bouquet resting in a vase which had a fish in it (the vase served as fish bowl as well). I took the fishbowl and had wonderful memories of the wedding associated with it for many months afterwards. Again: no harm in asking.
I've heard of people having fish in vases on each table meant to be taken home by guests as gifts like you might have bonbonieres (ie. one per guest). I really dislike that idea because getting a pet is a decision that needs to be thought through properly and you need to have the inclination, the time and the knowledge to look after it properly. This goes for fish as well as furry pets. The fish were in tiny vases (I don't know the size of your fish bowl, hopefully it was a bit more generous), and though they were bettas (Siamese fighting fish) which people think should be kept in tiny containers, while the fish can survive under those conditions it really isn't the best life for them to have. A puppy could survive shut in a cupboard but that doesn't mean it wouldn't be kinder to let it out to run around. I have even heard of people keeping bettas in vases with flowers under the impression that you didn't have to feed them because they would just nibble on the plant. Bettas are carnivores, so they while they will nibble on a plant out of desperation if nothing else is available they will slowly starve to death if given no other food.

All in all I really think animals should not be used as decorations, at weddings or anywhere else. They are living creatures with rights.
Yes, I think it go's way too far as a gift to give something living. fish ect.

What if you gave it to people who threw it out?
by jonaja
If you're given permission to that is fine. It is generally not good for the guests to just take without being requested to.
Well if they ask you to take it then you can take it.
I think if the couple invite the guests to take home the flowers, than that's totally ok, right? So long as individual guests don't start smuggling out bags of centre pieces (unless previously arranged to do so), I think you're probably all good.. Such a waste to just leave those beautiful creations all alone.
If you ask permission, I doubt whether your hosts would refuse.
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