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If you couldn't bear children, would you adopt some or would you use a surrogate mother?

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If I hadn't been able to have children I might have adopted if I could, but adopting babies in Australia is almost impossible now, so it would probably have either had to be an overseas adoption (which would cost a lot of money I might not be able to afford, not to mention all the red tape) or adoption of an older child.

I find the many ethical issues around surrogacy very troubling, especially with paid surrogacy, which exploits women in developing countries and has been likened to prostitution.

It's also weird the way only the surrogate, the sperm donor and the intended parents seem to be mentioned, rarely the egg donor when there often is one. I would have thought that the child might be just as curious about her as about the surrogate, and if the sperm donor has any rights to the child, then she does too. It's such a complicated situation. Look at what happened in the case of baby Gammy.

Melinda Tankhard Reist has written a lot of interesting stuff on the subject.

I think it is awful how hard it is to adopt. Necessary protection methods to make sure a person is suitable to be a parent are obviously needed, but the difficulty in adopting puts so many people off the process, and is detrimental to the child.
The reason it's hard to adopt babies in Australia (with in country adoptions) is that there are very few babies put up for adoption now, which is a good thing really. But it would be nice if overseas adoption could be made easier without risking the childrens' safety.
I would definitely adopt. I probably will at some point in my life.
by Gia
I'm really not sure. I can't imagine having the emotional or financial resources to go through an adoption nor could I imagine using a surrogate - but maybe that is just because I have had my own biological children? I would love to provide a temporary foster home for children in future.
I never want kids, so it is not an issue. If I did, I would adopt even if I could bear children, because there is no way I would put myself through sex, pregnancy or childbirth.
I would Adopt, as they need a home and are already on the planet!
It is a very hard thing to do here in OZ, but I would give it a darn good try.

I would probably adopt. At least you are giving a child a new start in life.
I always feel there is a risk with surrogacy - what if the surrogate mother changes her mind and wants to keep the baby?
Surrogacy is a risk, I would adopt. But then again the partner has to be supportive as well and ready to accept an adopted kid.
Adoption every time.
by Vee
adoption maybe , do not like the idea of surogacy,

I think this is such a difficult question. I'm not in favour of surrogacy, It's not acceptable to me, adoption is wonderful, if it is more about the child and parents - not just about the parents - as with surrogacy. I feel great sympathy for the adults now discovering they were the end result of a sperm donation. - there have been some really good docos on tv. about this. All of a sudden they dont know who they are, or where they came from, but that they might have a dozen or more siblings.
And.... I don't believe all women are 'meant' to have children, social pressures mean that they think they should, or some celeb with a child. 3 children seems to be a fashion now.
If the families are like our neighbours, its wonderful, but for many, - peter costello, it was a damn bad idea....
I would adopt children even if my wife can have them as long as I have the money to take care of them. I would still want my own but I fell sorry for the kids that don't get adopted.
Not happy about adopting, as you've NO idea of background, medically, or any other way!

Surrogacy is somewhat 'creepy', IMHO!

So definitely NO!, to either!

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