How do you get on with your mother or father-in-law?

I did not used to get on with my mother in law -we did not particularly like each other, but ASD a mother in law i get on very well with both my daughters in law.

by Finy

When I was married I always got on well with my in-laws,though after the divorce,it has been my Father-in-law who has been much closer than his wife! He always,even though my son is now 28,wants to know that his first grandchild is happy and well!! And he has always asked after me when my ex sees him!
Before I was married,I always had VERY good relationships with the mothers of my boyfriends,I believe because I did not try to ever 'steal' their sons away from them!!! I know that with my own son, I have been fond of HIS girlfriends for this same reason. Any lass who believes that her boyfriend is 'property' is not worth the effort! We all need to retain our own personal identity whether or not we are in a relationship.

by Jules

I get on with both my in laws very well which means happy wife happy life :).

by Rich Nicolls

Yes, have heard that one before!

I get along quite fine with my mother in law. In fact I sometimes think we have more to talk about than my real mom. My father in law passed away, but while he was with us we also got along quite fine, sometimes even better than he and my wife. Even though he made some bad choices, It turned out that we had a lot in common.

by dwatk

Quite fine actually. I try to treat her with respect an so far she has done the same.

by Gia

I get on well with my mother-in-law

by AJ

I get on with both my in laws very well which means happy wife happy life :).

by Rich Nicolls

I got on with my mother in law when she was alive...all those years ago...not relevant now

by Fran

My father in law is no longer alive and my mother in law is now 94 and she's a gem! Very find of her.

by Sandy Ludinski

My mother-in-law is a lifesaver. We get along very well. I can be more open with her than I can be with my own parents. But shhh, don't tell anybody, LOL.

by Vee

I will tell on you -said in a singing voice.....

Dammit, Finy. :| LOL.

and I will not relent Vee

now theres a good question -do you ever relent!!!

This may sound stupid, Finy, but I have never been good at asking questions. I was always the quiet one in class, watching as others asked away. You, on the other hand, are so good at it! What is your secret? LOL.

My first mother in law was quite a woman.
She went out of her way to make life slightly difficult for me, I did suffer and my husband never was much help.
His mother was someone he would not take-on....I left that marriage years later.

Then something happened and she changed big time, and my relationship with her became more loving, even as I was not married to her son.

In the years to follow it was really nice, and I was by her side, as her days neared the end.I cried a lot when she died, and found that her turn around was wonderful, even if it came too late really.

My second mother in law was the exact same, but! she was a totally different lady.Being half way around the world, and the total opposite to the life of my first mother in law...
When I divorced her son, she did a huge change too.
We would talk for ages on the phone, and she also became very loving to me?

To this day, I'm still unable to work out these two very strange women.

Both formed strong friendships with me, once I had divorced their sons.
Life is weird, and I sometimes don't get it!

by jonaja

hmmm jonaj -did they not want anyone for their sons -odd that two women would do the same! Mine never spoke to me again after we separated

To this day I just can't work it out Finy lol....lol

No longer relevant for me but I think I got on with them with my first marriage. Even lived with them for awhile, tried hard to be a good daughter in law too. Father in law was a great man and loved his step children and all their partners. mother in law had a hard time with her first marriage and took life more seriously this time round but was very kind hearted.

by brigi

My mother-in-law developed Alzeimers very early (under 60) and died at 85. She was good to me, but I never argued with her even though I did not agree with the way she behaved alot of the time. My father-in-law was a darling. We nursed him at home until he died at the age of 73. He wanted to die at home in his own bed and we made sure that he got his wish. Luckily I have a nursing background.

by joan_

I live quite far away from my mom-in-law, so no dramas.

by Happy Mom

I get along really well with mine, they're lovely.

Before I acquired this set I had a MIL from a previous relationship who I adored as well. My now partner and I cared for my xmil when she was dying of cancer. Her son was no where to be found so we took her in and appreciated every last minute with her.

by meggf

Yes - got on fine with my FIL when he was alive during my (so far) 25years of courtship and marriage to their daughter. Treated me like a son from the day they met me. MIL was the same, although she now has Alzheimers and lives with us at 80 years of age.

by kimp

Has everyone on this site got a spare few DAYS to read? Only joking!
Plain & simply, NO!
If I'd had the 'intestinal fortitude' at the time, should've broken the Engagement, after several things she said & did. I truly believe she was slightly mentally retarded, as she was the product of an alcoholic, elderly father & 17yo farm girl!

F/I/L was kind of ok, much better than her, thank goodness!
I didn't speak to her for the last 15 years' of her life. She did some despicable things to me. I think some of it was jealousy. I'd reached a point I could no longer put up with her. Never went to either of their Funerals'. To me THAT would've been hypocritical.

by donjo

I loved my mum-in-law from the 1st day i met her! My husband & I married 5 years & 1 month later. I also get on with my father in law as well. They’re always very pleased to see us, when we visit. When we used to visit them in their big house with a granny flat, we’d stay for 4/5 days with them, but now they’ve moved into a much smaller house, in the same suburb of NSW,we are only able to stay 3/4 hrs, as it’s a 3hr train journey each way!

by miro_

I loved my mum-in-law from the 1st day i met her! My husband & I married 5 years & 1 month later. I also get on with my father in law as well. They’re always very pleased to see us, when we visit. When we used to visit them in their big house with a granny flat, we’d stay for 4/5 days with them, but now they’ve moved into a much smaller house, in the same suburb of NSW,we are only able to stay 3/4 hrs, as it’s a 3hr train journey each way!

by miro_

My first in-laws came straight from hell. They couldn't manage paying their mortgage when they immigrated from the UK even with the eldest daughter working and contributing to the payments so my husband left our daughter and myself to live with them. I had no support, paying our mortgage myself and bringing up our daughter without maintenance support. They spread lies in the workplace about me but thankfully when they got back to me I was able to discredit them and their lies and move on with my life. As far as I'm concerned, I'm glad it happened as I found my wonderful husband also in the same workplace who had heard the rumours and lies but took the time to find out for himself. Unfortunately his mother passed away not long after his father when he was in his early teens so an aunt took him under her wing and she was fantastic towards me. He treated her as though she was his mum and we both loved her until she passed away.

by helga

I got along very well with my late Mother in Law.
When I first moved here to Newfoundland, the first thing she did was welcome me with a big hug. She was an angel! As for my hubby's Dad, he passed on before I moved here.

by little trout

My mother in law was not easy to get along with at times, but when she was good she was very good, unfortunately she had a mental illness that didn't bring out the best in her, and unfortunalety for no reason I used to be the target, and at times we just kept away, my father in law put up with it, he was too soft personality, I feel if it had been another man he would of packed his bags and left.

by Diana Nairn