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How do you deal with intrusive family members?

by Happy Mom (follow)
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Every person has them: those highly intrusive and pushy family members who want to extract private and personal information out of you. They are difficult to deal with and usually give you headache at first sight. You don't want to hurt their feelings or spoil your relationship but avoid their intrusion as well.

How do you deal with such meddling family members (over phone, emails, face-to-face, family gatherings, etc.)?

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I ignore questions in e-mails that I don't want to answer. Face to face and phone calls are a little trickier. I find that the more information you provide the more they push so try to avoid subjects I don't want to discuss and give as little information as possible when asked about things directly.
I sometimes give vague replies and then find an opportunity to bring up another question, sometimes a question for them so that it steers the conversation in another direction.
I just don't know how much information is too much or too little or how to keep my mouth shut. I am too "nice" (not too toot my own horn, but nice in a silly way).
If a family member presses on, I just don't answer. There was a time when this family member was asking for my address persistently, and he still doesn't have it. He has a habit of turning up on people's doorsteps without an appointment.
I have found over the many years, you must be frank with them.

You say the one same line, each and every time...and if they don't get it you just do not talk about it.You change the topic.
I would always say''That is something I just can not talk about-and I know you will understand''.
That has always stopped them....end of topic.
If you say the same thing, for each time they ''Try''.....they get the message, very quickly.
You must always say it with a firm, but loving manner.

Emails are much more easy, the written word is powerful..

I have had to deal with family who are in the Law Industry, and it was often like being on the 'Trial''!
But you have to just be firm...and very polite.
I dont have any
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