As someone with a mental health illness, I have been through the entire rigmarole of doctors and therapists, and I can whole heartedly say they just made everything worse and more stressful. One of the first psychologists I went to see dramatically increased my problems.
I personally find just dealing with things on my own far easier. I have the support of my family if I need them, but otherwise I just get on with it. I have found my ability to cope with stressful situations improve recently. I just repeat to myself 'keep calm and carry on'.
Carrying on is literally the best thing you can do. Sometimes you can be so depressed that you just don't want to do anything, but as a result, your mind just swirls around with bad feelings. Keep busy so that you don't have time to think about it.
I'm sure you don't want pity, but my thoughts are with you. Frustratingly that's what I have an issue with - 'therapists' and psychologists can make an issue worse. It really gets my goat because there is such a stigma, and annoyingly, no-one seems to understand.
Judging by your contribution to w/e notes and hubgarden, you're doing great!
It's all about how you see yourself, those around you and your world. If your mental health is stopping you from doing your normal things then you need help!!
Acknowledging that you need help is the very first step, be committed to getting help to make your life more enjoyable. Trust your gut feelings, you will know when enough is enough!
The second step is to get the help, don't be embarrassed or shy your life and that of those who care about you is worth the effort. Take a friend or family member and visit your local GP or contact lifeline, beyond blue or mental health department. Bulk billing psychologists and counsellors do exist so don't let the cost stop you from getting help.
I completely 'get' what you're syaing, but it can be so difficult for someone with a mental health condition to even begin to acknowledge that they have a problem. Sadly, it is a real struggle, and to see people I love having trouble coming to terms with the fact they have an issue, big or small, is hard to understand.
Your right it is very hard. I have suffered with mental illness my whole life but finally when I was pregnant I got to the point that I was pacing my room for over 24 hrs and I decided that for my baby's sake I had to get help. I stayed at a mental health facilty, I still go to a day group there every two weeks and I see a great Pysiciatrist there once a month. I also see a psychologist once a month. It did take me years to find a good psychologist but don't give up they are out there!
I simply got to the point that I couldn't eat, sleep, work or even have a conversation it was so bad I was desperate for help. I got great help and it has changed my life, saved my life and made me a good wife and Mother. It was the best decision I ever made!!
Mental Health is one of the most difficult health problems to deal with.
Having had a mother, brother and also sadly son and myself all suffer in one way or the other.We all had to get on with our lives at different times.
The hard fact is this, the brain is lacking in serotonin, the connectors that keep our brains happy and well ''do not connect''. To re-connect those wires in the brain, only a Doctor can help anyone.Mental Health is certainly not an issue that one can snap out of . That is just plain dangerous, also having had a member of my family take his life, because of mental illness.
You would not try to fix a broken leg, so why would attempt to fix the brain.
The stigma has been there now for too many years, and we will continue to lose loved ones, and have family and friends go through life with this Black Dog....Until people are enlightened there is Nothing to be ashamed about.
The very best thing one can do if they think they know someone is not doing o.k. is just to ask! Tell them to see their Doctor.Do not play 'devils advocate'.
I've suffered with anxiety and depression and I know only too well how difficult and isolating it can be when you are going through a bad patch.
For me, when depression gets the better of me, it may take a while for me to realise that I'm slowly slipping down into that abyss, but eventually tell tale signs I've come to recognise clue me in. Like not bothering to get out of the house for days and not showering till late in the day if at all, and the housework getting further behind.
When this point is reached I force myself to take charge. I pick myself up and take mysef out to do something that always gves me a huge lift. Most of the time this is spending a few hours somewhere pretty with my camera. Its difficult to find this motivation and I have to push myself to even go do the thing I normally love. But it always helps immensely. I come home feeling really buoyed and so take that opportunity to push myself to do other things like briskly clean up part of the house as this always leaves you feeling better when its fresh and clean. If I find myself sleeping too often then I force myself to stay awake through those sleepy times of the day specially if I know Ive had ample sleep the night before. Its al about working on crawling your wy back up through the abyss. You just need that happy trigger to start somewhere.
I only occasionally suffer from anxiety because I've learnt how to manage things so I don't get into anxiety ridden situations. I've learnt what triggers them and how to best handle these situations. If all else fails and I find my emotions spinning out of control I resort to taking an anti anxiety tablet and going to bed early. One of the key triggers is overstretching myself. Pushing myself too hard physically and mentally too many days in a row and not sleeping enough all are sure fire triggers of an anxiety attack. So I try to pace myself whenever I can. Avoiding stressful situations also helps although life can make this very difficult for most of us at times.
In the end the best advice I can give is liten to your body and really take note of what triggers depressive episodes or bouts of anxiety. Plus try different strategies to help yourself when trouble strikes. Assess their effectiveness and use them again if they helped. Time and experience help a lot in learning to cope but you must look after yourself and learn to be really in tune with your own body.
Talk to a trusted professional in confidence. They may refer you to specialist support services. Depending on the relationships you have with your family and friends, speak to them so they can look out for you. It does depend on the extent of the mental health illness at hand.
I struggle with mental illnesses on a daily basis, so much so I cannot work and rarely leave the house; I guess I find that working on the issues slowly and taking my prescribed medications is helping - getting out into the sun and gardening or walking helps a little too. I guess we just have to stick at it.
I have never had a problem in that area, then when my husband died I was devastated and found it hard to cope emotionally without him. I knew it wasn't a mental health problem as such, just needed to talk to someone about intimate matters. I have an excellent GP who I see every six months or so to "vent". It isn't a medication issue just a "talking therapy" session. It is really good and I get out a lot of the sadness, anger and longing I've experienced since Mike died.
I actually worked in the mental health area for 25 years before retiring so have some knowledge of the process. I didn't consider I needed psychiatric help, and my GP agreed with me. However, I have seen the help a really good professional can offer to someone with psychiatric problems, so would encourage anyone with such issues to see their GP and ask for a referral to thelocal mental health unit.
I battle with depression at times. I try to stay aware of warning signs and if I see them I start to make changes to try to head it off. I start exercising more and eat less unhealthy food. Less screen time and more fresh air or more time in my art studio help. I tell my husband, or someone, what is happening so I have some support and would see my doctor if things get too bad. I have never had to take medication although last time I was depressed I was feeling desperate I was ready to try some. It turned out that my hormone replacement meds caused the problem and I got well when I stopped taking them. Another tool for me is to practise positive thinking and to avoid overthinking.