Do you hold grudges for long?

I don't generally hold grudges for long however there has been an occasion where I have for many years....like when my "very best friend" took off with my partner of 18 years! I probably still hold a grudge against her, and I guess him but female betrayal was for me far worse than male betrayal as I was telling her everything going on in my life as you sometimes do with a bestie! It was all being repeated!

There are perhaps a few more during my life but perhaps they are not grudges anymore if I cannot readily think about them!

by Finy

Nobody could blame you for that grudge!

I get over minor things quickly but I don't know if I would get over something major

by AJ

I don't like holding onto grudges, as it hurts us on every level. If possible, forgiveness is the best way, although if someone has hurt me deeply enough, that's not always so easy to do. However, if someone we trusted has really abused our faith in them or continues to act in a hurtful way, I think the sensible thing is to keep our distance, or at the very least establish very firm personal boundaries.

by Carolyn Hopping

I love that quote Finy, I've seen it before and in think its really powerful. I don't hold grudges exactly but I over think thungs and I'll keep thinking about situations and circumstances that really warrant no more time or effort on my part. I've parted ways with certain friends but still wish them well despite the friendship having gone sour. If I had a girlfriend steal a partner, I think I'd definitely still have a grudge!

by helenonthesofa

thanks helen -not a grudge that effects me any more but it did for about a year!! badly

No I don't hold grudges...I don't let things get to me for long....just get on with my life..HOWEVER...I don't forget and if 'whatever it was' happened again I would just leave that person behind and 'move on baby'!

by Fran

Depends on the reason for the grudge in the first place. I generally try to. I've on because it's really a waste of energy and emotions. However, some things are hard to move on from when your feelings are hurt!

by Sandy Ludinski

I don't hold grudges, per se, but I do remember and probably won't forgive if those who have done me wrong are not remorseful. I once warned an old friend about somebody she was becoming involved with despite potentially causing family issues on my end. She went straight to him armed with the information I had given her and told him everything and then some. I was trying to look out for her, but it seems she couldn't have given a flying fart in space about how her actions would affect me, my husband, and our family.

by Vee

a flying fart in space -you do come up with some good ones Vee....apart from your disgusting Hitler one which i will not even reply to. Half my family wiped out by him -why on earth would you dress as him

I know, that's why I was horrified when my friend suggested it was a good idea. Silly, ignorant man!

Matt 6:15 :)

But jonaj, how do you forgive somebody who does not seek forgiveness?

I use too, many many years ago.
Not now......I try to even go the extra, I love peace.
There is no reason as the sign says to let someone live
inside of my head.
There is enough sadness in this world of ours....why let it stay
in not only your head, but heart too.

by jonaja

Yes I do hold grudges.......forever. I never forgive and I never forget. My friends suggest that I do forget but that is not the case. It just means I have put some grudges on the back burner, to simmer.

by fran.

Don't hold grudges for a long time , just toxic to my system. I do remain hurt by the action .
Cannot forget , I simply move on but if there is a repetition of that behaviour from the same person I am quick to say good bye as life is too precious.If you cannot respect me enough to treat me right there is no point to that interaction,

by Zen

Depends what the person has done to me, will be/won't be a grudge stored by me.

Have had a few 'friends' really do the 'nasty' to me because I stood up for myself. They didn't like it. I didn't like the way they then treated me.

So 'grudge', no, but I DON'T forget!

by donjo

No, I don't.

by silvi

I think it's a waist of time as life is so short, & 1 should just 'move on' Not so with my husband. He'll hold a grudge from the time the 'thing' happened until he day he dies! He just can't let it go.

by Miro