I'm a non-hugger. I really dislike anyone invading my personal space. I used to live in Belgium and there everyone greets anyone with a hug and three cheek kisses. It was hell for me. On very rare occasions if a close friend is upset I will hug them but that's it.
I don't remember being hugged much when I was little. My Mum died when I was young, so I didn't get to feel the genuine hugging warmth of a mother. When I was 17 and my new Stepmother's daughter (alot older) met me, she gave me such a bearhug, I was shocked! I was shocked because I LOVED the feeling in being enveloped in this feeling of love and acceptance. Ever since, I hug everyone I love, especially children.
I am a hugger but only to my family and real friends. Bought up in a loving european family where kisses and hugs are a plenty. Love seeing couples holding hands, Nice to show affection where it is warranted.
I am not a hugger of aquaintances.I remember lovely comforting hugs from my grandmother and mother. I find the social custom of hugging or kissing everyone quite invasive. I have a close friends who understand this and politely skips me when doing the rounds. She does it so nicely I feel comforted by her lack of hugs- very strange. Sometimes I feel like hugging and sometimes not- I must be a difficult person to be around.
It may come from having my boundaries invaded as a child. I can be a prickly adult.