If I were to get married I wouldn't invite anyone who was likely to spoil the day. It would be about me and my husband, and I wouldn't want to be worried that someone would ruin it. A day that's about us wouldn't be suited to someone with poor boundaries.
That was exactly my reasoning. I knew my grandfather would pull something. He's a selfish man. Unfortunately though, I caved to my mother's request that I invite him. He made a scene during the service and my and my husband's memory of our special day will always be tainted, not only by what he did that day but everything he has ever done.
Strange response jonaj, you can't uninvite somebody if they're already there and cause a scene. I knew my grandfather would pull something at my wedding and wasn't going to invite him. Mum insisted that I do and we both lived to regret inviting him.
I think what I mean is, that 'if' they were ok at the wedding, then fine...but knowing that a problem could arise, as I did with my second marriage...we had a couple of guys to remove that person.e.g. remove, to another area...and told to leave, and if that person did not the Police, were to be called...simple. We don't hold back on rules. ; )