One of my sons had dreadlocks for a very long time and I was a bit embarrassed at the time as people tended to stare at him as they were very long (not nice!)
However, after two of my children died, I no longer care how my remaining son looks -it is a trivial thing and no one else's business.
If they stare, so be it -it would not worry me like it used to as my ideals, thoughts and deeds have changed since that awful time.
There are far more important things in life -LIFE ITSELF
No. Who cares what other people think?? It is what you think that matters. External appearance means nothing. Its what's inside that counts. If other people have trouble with the way this person that you love looks, then they are the one with the problem . Who says you have to be conventional?? Most people rebel at some stage. So what. Are they harming anyone. No. They are still the wonderful, kind, caring person underneath all that. How superficial to judge someone only by their looks. I would be ashamed to be with any family member who did that !!
Of all the people in my immediate family I'm probably the most likely to give myself a mohawk, so nope, it wouldn't embarrass me. It's just hair. I like my kids to keep theirs clean, and ideally out of their eyes or up when doing exercise where that's necessary (eg. my daughter is required to where hers in a ponytail for gymnastics) but beyond that it's their hair and they can do what they like with it. It's none of my business what my husband does with his hair, but that doesn't matter anyway because he hasn't got any.
Not at all!!! My son has gorgeous red/auburn hair and has always done 'strange' things with it!! At one stage he was using the fluorescent colour tip pens designed for hair,after gelling his hair into 'spikes'!! He did it just to see what the reaction would be!! Very few people said anything bad about it at all,knowing it was all in a sense of fun! He was just shy of turning 12 when he nearly lost me to a brain tumor,so we have both always done EVERYthing possible to get a smile or laugh into our days!! That particular 'style' reminded everyone who knows him of Sonic the Hedgehog,a delightful and fun character who was very popular a few years before he did it!! He was nicknamed 'Sonic' for quite a while afterwards! He now shaves his head completely and has done so for years,as being a chef,it is so much more comfortable to work with no hair!! As long as he is healthy and clean,I am not at all concerned about how he wears his hair! How trivial!
P.S. he has also had his hair done in 'corn rows' when it was long.He has an African friend who would spend hours doing it for him. I absolutely LOVED it as it was so neat and tidy,and really suited him.Pity that it did not stay in for very long,as the 'afro' curly hair does!!!
People express themselves and experiment when young. What I find odd is when they are still doing it late in life. Desperately clinging to the youthful past sometimes can look a bit silly. Age gracefully is more my thing.
Not at all. I used to be a Goth when I was younger, and I think it's great that my sons want to express their individuality. I'm more concerned about them growing up to be good people and respectful to others.
I always told my son to remain an individual and not to follow the crowd. I was probably thinking of the advice pertaining to smoking or doing bad stuff....well he is an individual. He doesn't follow the crowd. He is peirced and tattoed and his hair could be any colour. His clothes and fashion sense are unique. I am not embarrassed to be seen with him and he doesn't always look as respectable as the fellow in the pic. I would be embarrassed if he was violent , or a thief or unkind. He keeps himself clean and puts effort into how he looks, even if it is unconventional. His apearance is not a reflection of anything more than a creative person's personal expression.