So you love him/her but for some reason there is adultery in the relationship. Would you still love the perso? Will you accept them in your life again? Is divorce or splitting up the only answe? Would you be able to give them another chance with life and not judge them ?
Or do you think trust can be rebuilt and the relationship can work if both are willing to work at it?
No way. Zero tolerance on this one from me. Once somebody cheats, chances are they will do it again. I have seen it in friends relationships. Cheaters also lie and sometimes steal money from the relationship. No way.
I think it certainly depends on the circumstances of the betrayal: with whom, for how long, for what reasons, etc. I would like to think that my husband and I could move past something like that and rebuild our relationship, but I cannot honestly say that with certainty.
This is a very hard question to answer....Knowing what I know now.
When I was young it would have made me very angry, and loose trust.
Now.....I would take it as a mistake, as long as it never happens again.
It certainly put's pressure on the marriage, and depending on how my husband
explained himself, would make the difference.
I'm not sure you can know for sure unless you are in that situation. You will feel deeply betrayed, but at the same time, you still love them. I think it depends on how long they have been cheating on you and if they regret it. If it was a one night stand, then I think there is room for forgiveness, but if you partner has been having an affair for months or years, then probably not.
I don't think so -after my husband at the time, left with my best friend, and I was telling her everything that was going on, I doubt if I would tolerate infidelity in a marriage.
I would probably always be suspicious if my partner were late, and I think I would become neurotic about it.
I do not think I could just stop loving that person however, but could not make a relationship work after that.
I agree with you. Lots of people will tell you that you should give it a try for the sake of children, money or whatever. If I ever agreed to take the person back and promised to try to make the relationship work, I would be lying. Every minute late, any story that didn't ring true even slightly - I know I would have to down tools and investigate, thoroughly. Just wouldn't work for me. And, that is also depending on whether or not I was on an assault charge in the first place, I don't take kindly to being lied to, and I don't like lying to anyone else wither - so no. The answer is no.
No is the simple answer
My ex wife cheated in the relationship prior to our getting married and I accepted it.
This proved to be a mistake.
The bible states that when two people are joined together their individual souls are joined together as one. If people cant grasp the importance of this and are prepared to trade their soul for sex then they fall way short of the mark for me across a lot of areas.
I am very much against cheating and being lied to in a relationship.
I always think in my head that I will never give anyone a second chance if they cheated and told me a massive lie that was unforgiveable.
It may hurt not to forgive them and take them back but you wouldn't want it to happen again.
I think if this was a one-off instance, and the relationship was good apart from that, definitely work at repairing the damage. If the erring partner was a chronic adulterer, then it might be best to leave the relationship.
Nope. Plain and simple. Physically, I would be revolted. Mentally, I would be mortally offended at the dishonety and disrespect. I quite probably would drag every item out on the lawn and set fire to it.