When a man cares for his own children that's not babysitting, it's parenting. My husband actually gets very offended if people refer to him "babysitting" when he is at the shops or wherever with our kids. He finds it sexist and insulting. No, I don't give him a list of instructions. I don't dictate to him how to care for our kids. He makes the decisions too and he can figure things out for himself the same as I did.
I never considered that time my son's father spent with him was 'babysitting'! It was just being a dad without the company of me for a short while!! I cannot recall making lists for him for anything apart from Shopping!! I considered him to have the same basic common sense a I do myself and this should not require lists,especially for how to look after his own child!
I don't consider my children's father to be a babysitter - We are BOTH parents. If I head out for the day I might yell out instructions like: please remember to take the steak out of the freezer, or "Bub hasn't napped so he might need to go to sleep soon", but I would expect my partner to do the same if he had been with the children and was "handing over" to me.
Dad's aren't babysitters. They are parents. My husband was the main carer of our children for more than a year whilst I worked full time. No instructions necessary. We have our different standards, but I try not to impose mine on hom.
My husband does not and never has BABYSAT. As others have mentioned, yes he has parented solo. I only leave instructions if there is something specific that needs to be done. However, normally we are on the same page so both know how to take care of our kids and their individual needs. As a matter of fact, my hubby is a MUCH better parent than I am, and I tell him that all the time! :)
When I was married I never gave a second thought to leaving him to babysit. He was totally capable and we parented exactly the same way. I knew our child was perfectly safe, fed, clean, entertained and happy.
Never had a problem with my husband. He was more capable than I was looking after the girls from the day they came home from hospital. It was never babysitting, and as others have said, he parented extremely well.
The first time my husband cared for our child without me was when I went away with my sister for a long weekend. He had a job and was studying so didn't have a lot of time at home to be a dad.
He stayed with his parents at their holiday place. I don't recall giving him a list of instructions.
I do vividly recall him telling me on my return , I could go away whenever I needed as he didn't realise how challenging it was to look after our son. He was much more understanding after that.