One of my aunts loves making a scene when in a restaurant. She will send things back to the kitchen if they aren't perfect, she will berate the staff in the middle of the dining area if she perceives the service to be sub-par, she will ask to speak to the manager if she dissatisfied with how 'issues' are resolved. When my family gets together, we have to talk to her ahead of time to remind her that we consider this behavior to be unacceptable and highly embarrassing. She has toned it down as the years go by, but still goes all out on occasion.
Oh! dgrwriting.....why don't you just dump her from your social gatherings? She's proven she can't be 'trusted', I would assume on several occasions, & is STILL doing it, even though you're warning her? Geeeesh!
She needs a good kick where it hurts ie in her 'presumed' holier than thou social status. There's no way I'd put up with the actions of this woman ruining ANY social occasion of mine!
She sounds as if she's 'a sandwich short of a picnic', well & truly!
Now that I think about it, I find I embarrass easily. I hold myself to a high standard, and when I don't meet those expectations for whatever reason, I find it embarrassing. Often others don't even realize I am embarrassed.
Bryony, I have to say that for somebody who has achieved quite a bit - especially having been published - you should give yourself more credit. When I saw and read some of your work, I was admittedly intimidated. I too am insecure, so I understand what it's like, but be kind to yourself woman.
P.S. I relish in making sounds in a quiet room. Unless, of course, these sounds involve passing gas of any kind.
Thank you both, but while I might be good at writing, practically every other aspect of life I fail in. And just because you are good at something does not equate to confidence or a lack of embarrassment.
Yes Bryony, I understand what you are saying and people telling you you "should" or "should not" be like how you are, does not help -it has to come from within.
Perhaps as you get older (assume you are quite young, you may feel different-I hope so!
. . high five. I am getting better as I age, so there's hope for you :-) In the meantime, we can sit in that corner together. I find it amazing when some people can do the most embarrassing things and just not care. "Them" and "us" . . . LOL
Sometimes the things that embarrass me don't have anything to do with me.
The TV show Bachelor (with all the desperate girls running after/competing for one bloke) I cannot watch that show as I get so embarrassed on the part of the girls.
When at School Speech Night, I had to collect TWO Trophies' for Swimming. One for Senior Swimmer ie School Champion. One for Open Champion ie Best Overall, all strokes.
When my introduction came over the PA, the person presenting grabbed my left arm & held it up like what happens to a Champion Boxer at end of bout!
I could feel that my neck & face were getting red!
Walking back to my seat, I passed my Mother, who said to me 'you're as red as a beetroot'!
Of course, that made things worse, & I got hotter!