I am happy about the term lady. I don't think its about frills and the colour pink, a 'lady' could equally be found in a paddock picking up a ewe. I think its a term of respect for the unique and diverse strengths of women. I also understand that some women are offended by the term.
It carries the connotations of being "ladylike" and I really don't like that idea, since I don't see why women should be obliged to mind their manners any more than men do, or put up with inconveniences (having to dress a certain way, sit a certain way, speak a certain way, not to mention even sillier old fashioned stuff like having to ride side saddle on horses) that men don't have to. That's sexism, pure and simple.
That being said I don't usually find it offensive if someone refers to me as a lady, as in when I was working in a shop and a mother told her child to "give the money to the lady." It's not meant to be offensive, just seen as more polite than "woman." Maybe that needs to change.
'give the woman the money'....naaaa I like what the Mum said.
A woman is a woman, a Lady is just that.No F words, closing ones legs when sitting, who rides side-saddle any-more.
Ladies are those who have manners, consideration and nice to be around.
I dislike women who sound like men, want to act like men, and over all....it looks crass.
Politeness and consideration have nothing to do with gender. That's not being a lady, it's just being a decent human being. But it's nobody's business how a woman wants to sit, walk, dress, speak etc. I've got no desire to be "a lady" if it means having to obey silly restrictions that men don't have to.
No, not really. There is the term "gentleman" and "gentlemanly" but the kind of behaviour that refers to is just basic decency that should apply equally to both sexes. There is no equivalent for men of being looked down on for, for example, sitting with their legs apart if they feel like it.
I think what we could be looking at here, is one persons ideals...e.g. Not wanting to be seen as a 'typical lady'.If we were to ask a great deal of people....may be surprised, the majority would favour the latter.'.'Why'?...because it has mainly been seen, as it is.
For what it is.
One would be hard pressed for people to have the same ideas, given the larger majority.
It's just part of the make-up of how people have behaved, so if it is disliked, just do as you would feel is right for you.
I love the way you two bounce off each other. I think you should meet face to face one day. I'd love to be a fly on the wall. I think you would end up best mates despite what appears to be a generational difference from time to time.
Have you had the opportunity to ride sidesaddle?
It's not that difficult, actually, & quite comfy!
Then came 'split skirts', think Annie Oakley & Dale Evans.
Then best of all, great enlightenment, Jodhpurs! Hooray, & so smart & comfy, too! Loved wearing my 'Jodies' riding!
Unfortunately I have come across a couple of males who quite serously call their partner "Woman" as in "Get me a drink, Woman." I know I'm not answering the question, just indicating that it can be used in a derogatory way.
Depends on the context it's being used in. If you're using lady to mean woman then I'm fine with it - it's used this way quite a bit now and to me sounds nicer than woman, as in, "give the lady her tickets" instead of using "woman". I don't think many people under 40 would use lady in the sense of sweet natured, well breeded woman in her place in the way that people over 40 might.
In Britain a title used by woman who are members of the nobility..In the Roman Catholic Church you Got the Lady of Lourdes.Inthe U.s you Got Ladies room,she is a tough lady.Some woman object to the Way lady is used.
Lady is O.K. Woman applies to 50%+ of the human race. I object to Male and Female toilets. These terms apply to Animals. Do cats, dogs, horses use the toilets.? The toilets themselves have no gender. Signs with Men or Women are simple to understand .
hmmm, now I refer to myself as an old lady...I have no issue with the term lady but I tend to only use it with the defining adjective old in front of it. So it doesn't have the connotations of 'ladylike' manners, just once you're old enough to not be anything else...
"Lady" is pretty much the same as "woman" or "female" for me, only in a more conservative sense. It's the same for "Gentleman" and "man" or "male" or "bloke". I see "Ladies & Gentlemen" as more conservative, not less or more valid, valuable, moral, or whatever. The terms might be perceived as more "old-fashioned" but the application of it doesn't have to be. It's more the manner in which we interact in the social context.