Forgive your spouse. He is not perfect and neither are you. You do not need to get at him about inconsequential things.
Find ways to do unusually nice things for him such as writing a love note and placing it in his bag, get something for him that you know e loves.
Be affectionate, hug and kiss him. Praise him frequently.
Set aside couple time. Nature walks are great.
Its really is in essence serving him and loving on him.
Realize too that its a too way street. You cannot change him and if its a long standing problem it may take a long time and baby steps may be needed. Sometimes it is after an explosive argument tat everything is put out in the open, forgiveness takes place and true intimacy begins.
Rebuilding.....okay - think of the other person more than yourself. Don't get so caught up in day to day life that your relationship gets placed on the back burner. Remember....you don't have to "feel" like it to do it - what do I mean? See your partner's hand and hold it. Don't barge on ahead when walking together, hold hands and wait for your partner. Once the actions are played out, the feelings follow. Not much money? You don't need to go out at a fancy restaurant - a cappucino each while shopping is cheaper and still creates a little oasis. Remember to laugh together (don't get too serious about everything). Remember that there are many out there who have lost their partners and would dearly love them back again. Instead of your usual breakfast (maybe toast and tea) cook something special (french toast or bacon and eggs on toast) and enjoy it together. As I speak, I'm sipping from a can of cherry coke which is from my husband's personal stash. He was getting one for himself and asked if I'd like one also. Wasn't that nice? and do I love him for it? Yes.....I do.
I myself feel it is very difficult to rebuild.
Once it has gone, it would take a lot to get it back.
For some men, they feel it is like going to eat the same food every single day.
For other men, they just go through the motion, to save the peace.
Some women reinvent themselves, but that takes a great deal of time and work.
It can work, and some have a makeover on face and body.They seem to feel it will bring back the romance, and in a lot of cases it does.
Making time for your relationship. This is something that my partner and I have a lot of difficulty with - with 2 small children it can be hard to find time just for ourselves. We were doing really well...watching a favourite TV series or movie every second night or so...then we went on holiday and it all went out the window. Need to work on it again. x
Not making the other person responsible for your emotional and physical security. Learning to love yourself unconditionally so that you can be available to others in the same way. We are taught that our romantic partners need to complete us when we are already complete. If we are not we need to do the work on ourselves so that we are offering them the total package. If you want more intimacy in a relationship then be the change that you want to see. Do not hold back waiting for them to make it safe for you to love unconditionally.