GREAT question. I sometimes thing the only reason guys marry us is so they can have their personal domestic help. However, there are times when the man steps in...just we feel we are doing the cleaning more often.
I asked thisd question as I was always "expected" to be inside and cleaning or working and it was frowned upon that I actually played games on the computer! I wondered if anyone else had this same problem or if the younger generations are taught differently!
It shouldn't really be thought of as the man "helping" any more than a man caring for his own child is "babysitting" (it's just being a parent). It's his job too, so he ought to do his fair share. Of course it's up to the individuals involved to negotiate what they think their fair share is and who does which jobs. In our house my husband goes out to work so I do whatever needs doing during the day, but he does some things (some of the caring for our kids, cooking, mowing) while he's home in the evenings and at weekends. Occasionally I get some shtick about the fact that I don't do everything myself but I don't think it's anyone else's business. We're happy with the arrangement we have and I think it sets a good example for our kids.
Apparently a lot of people still expect women to do most of the housework. Here's hoping that will change.
From all the women I've worked with, it still seems to be the case that a woman can have a fantastic career and be a boss and earn a lot of money and still be the one stacking the dishwasher at the end of the night. So unjust.
Unfortunately, with working full time, looking after kids, grocery shopping, food preparation & cooking, washing & ironing, women are STILL required to do the cleaning. Very lopsided life we all have to live!
My husband cleaned the bathroom totally & Hoovered the house, weekly. These are two jobs I refused to do. Had just too much else to do on my plate!