P.S...There are times when one can use the option:
Are those who info is being kept from:''On a Need-To-Know-Basis''.
Which means : Do we tell our family things between husband and wife.
For me: They are Not on a ''Need-to-know-basis''.
So No they are not told.
I agree with Megg' this is not a simple case of 'yes' or 'no'. Circumstances must always come into play. In some cases it is necessary to be sly, wily and cunning in this way, even if it is not a tasteful way of going about things.
There would be occasions I would imagine, where it is OK to be underhanded.
Probably if it stopped hurting someone but then again, it is not truthful.
I cannot decide on this one!
I am generally not underhanded as have been told I am too honest and therefore have no need to be underhanded, and I cannot think of an occasion when you would need to be.
On another note your photo reminded me of when my 18 year relationship partner took off with my best friend and I found out from another friend, my other friend said to HER, you are lower than a snakes belly -your photos is a good one for this -shall I send it to her -LOL
"Underhanded" . . in the bad sense of the word . . is usually nasty, tiring, pointless and comes back to bite you in the Botty. I'm always in for a good subterfuge if it involves a happy thing like surprises for birthdays etc. Sneaking about to make somebody happy is nice.