It is something I do not think you can answer if it has not happened.
It would be heart wrenching to have to give away a child that you have been bringing up for 1, 2 or 3, or more years, and yet, it would also be heartbreaking to know that your natural child is with someone else through no fault of your own.
So a really difficult one, this would be to decide...
I honestly cannot even imagine what I would do! i believe that this situation is so horrific it should only ever be the stuff of novels or movies. Yet it has obviously happened somewhere at some time. I just have no real answer to this one.
I grew up in Victoria through the 60's and 70's and now I am definitely aware of this having happened so many years ago! It really IS too awful to know how to deal with or cope with,and I am just so thrilled that I have been very fortunate to have the definite knowledge of my son being mine!
Oh my. This is a very complex question that would obviously require a very complex response. 'How much time has passed since you've found out?' would be one of the most critical factors - I would imagine.
Just a tad 'worse' situation to 'adopting' a baby from the get-go.
IMO, if talking days to several months', probably swap.
Beyond that, toddler who 'recognizes', what to do?
Terrible dilemma to be placed in for ALL concerned.
Even if I had the wisdom of Solomon I don't think I could answer that. Babywise, maybe an easier decision to swap back but after that . . . . . what a nightmare. I had a friend whose mother died when she was 2ish and the father married another woman of the same name . . . they tried to pretend she was the mother but my friend never accepted her and when she was told . . she said she always knew something was not right.
Just a hobble thing to happen to any family. There was a story on 60 Minutes last year about this subject. I think the girls were about 12, when someone found out. 1 could Google to find out the
ending, as I can't remember now.
This would be a nightmarish situation. Depending on the age of the child I think the swap back has to be made, maybe very gradually if the child is older.
I would hope that both families could continue to play a part in each other's lives , so the children feel part of both families. There could be huge challenges like religious differences to be overcome. I would hope that each family would act from a place of love for the benefit of both children and any siblings.