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If there is a particular food or drink you don't consume, do you still buy it when entertaining guests?

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If there is a particular food or drink you don't consume, do you still buy it when entertaining guests?

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It depends. I don't buy meat for guests, because I don't want it cooked or eaten in my house, but I'll buy other things just because I know a guest likes them. I often don't have coffee because noone in the house drinks it so it tends to go stale between guests. I know you can keep it in the freezer, but I don't always have the space in there and people can be quite particular about the kind of coffee they like and it's frustrating if we buy it specially and it's the wrong one or something.
Years ago I used to sometimes have a meal at the home of friends who were vegetarians. I love meat but did not expect them to cook meat for me. They were great cooks and their meals were such that I didn't miss the meat at all.
I don't drink coffee at all, but we keep it in the cupboard to offer to guests when they come.
Yes.

I don't drink Tea or Coffee since 1965 or was it 1964?
Anyway I still buy small amounts, and keep for other folk who come by.
I live with my family, so if anyone is coming over they prepare. There generally isn't anything we don't already have that would be needed though.

I have often thought about that sort of thing, however, in the fantasy realm of if I ever did live by myself I've thought to myself, oh gosh, not only will I need to buy tea, coffee, and wine, but I'll need to buy mugs, wine glasses, and a kettle! I woul also need to buy in milk. There is so much I would need to get I think I would just say it's BYO visit.
Why bother asking someone over, & telling them to BYO all?
That is just so bad mannered, IMO.
by donjo
Like I said, this is fantasy realm. I wouldn't invite anyone anyway as I don't like visitors. I would only invite family, in which case it wouldn't really be that bad mannered.
I can understand what you are saying Bryony about not only needing to have drinks that you don't partake of yourself on hand for your guests but the appropriate vessels to drink them from and milk, a kettle etc. Some guests who prefer a particular type of coffee or tea might actually be quite happy to bring their own! When I was trying out going caffeine free I didn't expect others to buy something I would drink especially for me so I would take a herbal tea bag and my friends were okay with that.
If you are friends then it should be perfectly fine, because you understand one another; there would be know need to take offence. I quite agree that taking your own can suit both parties equally.
Peas. I can't eat them. They make me physically sick so they are never on the menu at my place. If I'm ordering take-away I always ask for no peas in the food and same request at restaurants.
Had a friend to Dinner, who likes a G & T.
So I bought those supplies', as I don't drink either.

After a few years', I gave my guest the bottle of Gin!
Can someone 'please explain' why using your utensils for meat is anaethema to you, especially if they put through a dishwasher after use?

Never heard of this situation, or done anything so weird as this, in my circle of friends', of many a long year.
Is this how vegans' 'live'? Or is it 'deeper' than that?
by donjo
I don't know why other people have the rules they have, but it is possible to have actual allergies to animal products (for example, sometimes tick bites can cause an allergy to red meat), in which case you can get sick if they are not cleaned properly. Not everybody owns a dishwasher, and it's probably better to be safe than sorry. It's also generally considered to be impolite to bring meat into the home of someone you know to be vegetarian or vegan. Generally speaking, it's a good idea to go with people's house rules. When in Rome...

Here's a link re. tick bites and red meat allergy. http://acaai.org/allergies/types/food-allergies/types-food-allergy/meat-allergy
Ah I see Simon already mentioned it below.
the 2 reds - red meat and red wine. both are partial to my guests... so I begrudgingly accommodate. they have to bring a pan tho, I flat out refuse to soil my cookware. glasses, I am more lenient with
That's different, & not in a good way. Do u wash their brought pan & glasses, or begrudge also water, & washing-up liquid?
by donjo
I don't eat most meat, and would not want my kitchen or utensils used either. If someone brings it, I apologise and say I have lots of food, thank you for your kindness in bringing it, but please take it home with you.

by annfi
I don't eat most meat, and would not want my kitchen or utensils used either. If someone brings it, I apologise and say I have lots of food, thank you for your kindness in bringing it, but please take it home with you.

by annfi
Fair enough. I'd prefer my cookware didn't come into contact with meat either, and I don't like the smell of meat cooking. If guests brought meat I'd probably suggest cooking it outside on the barbecue.
i get hives or something if I have red meat. I go blotchy and itch like crazy for a week. I don't mean to be rude, but peeps know my condition and understand. at least they say they do. in the same way, if a friend is allergic to seafood or chocolate, I wouldn't give it to them.
by simon
Thank you, Simon, for your reply!
As I get no allergies' of any description, I just didn't even think of that, so NOW I understand.

My sister is allergic to Sea Scallops, no other seafood, just Scallops!
by donjo
Talking about red meat......in my First Trimester of each child, I couldn't look at, smell, touch, cook, & definitely not eat it! So had chook & fish instead!
Once that time over, was able to revert to eating red meat!
Go figure!
by donjo
scallops? oh spew - they r delicious. I had a friend when I was a kid. for her birthday I bought a box of chocs, thinking everyone likes chocolate, right. she was allergic. until then I just thought I had very itchy skin. I tried cutting out various foods, and meat seemed the prob. I don't know if its the crap that they feed animals, or hormones they feed them or what, but it works for me

by simon
I'm the only person in my family that drinks alcohol, and I know if I want it.. I need to supply for myself

by simon
No, I eat almost everything so it would not apply.
by Finy
For me that would be Coffee. I still purchase it for family members and guests.
I try to have soy milk in the house when I know my brother is coming over.
by Rice
Salad - I have never been a fan of salad, and cannot eat tomato's raw.
It is strange as I eat most veggies and eat fruit, my wife loves salad but doesn't eat fruit.
I guess we all have things we just do not like.
Farley
It depends. I don't buy meat for guests, because I don't want it cooked or eaten in my house, but I'll buy other things just because I know a guest likes them. I often don't have coffee because noone in the house drinks it so it tends to go stale between guests. I know you can keep it in the freezer, but I don't always have the space in there and people can be quite particular about the kind of coffee they like and it's frustrating if we buy it specially and it's the wrong one or something.
We don't entertain, so that solves that. Our eldest daughter & her family are vegetarians, but as her meals are always so wonderful, we don't mind not eating meat, when we visit her for a week at a time.
by Miro
Alcohol. We have to buy it when guests come.
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