Two. If we lived in a society where people looked after each other's children more and parents were not so isolated I'd have half a dozen, but as it is things seem to be set up for small families so we are probably stopping at two.
I know the feeling. It does seem to get harder once you've past the two children mark. Grandparents aren't always able (or around) anymore to take on babysitting duties at the drop of a hat, and most other parents work so it isn't like you can take turns with a group of friends anymore to do other things and babysit. Ho hum.
Three. I'm very happy with three. Having two kids was nice, but three is even better for our family. We had a girl and a boy first so it wasn't to balance out the genders like some families do, we just weren't quite complete. Three is great, it's really nice to see the older ones take the younger one under their wing and help him out. I think a lot of kids miss out on doing that. As Jennifer pointed out, society isn't set up for that anymore though, and even having three kids is pushing the envelope in terms of cost of living and being able to get around. Once you're past 3 kids, you're looking at a van instead of a car, a bigger house, and more and more expenses. Private school would be a distant dream. So would extended family holidays probably. I wish it weren't that way, but it is.
Three but my hubby wants more!!! I guess I've had enough with changing nappies and feeding bottles in the middle of the night. As I always tell everyone, my 3 kids are my diamonds...I can't imagine my life without them..
When i was 17/18 I said to the people I worked with, "If I ever get married, I'd like to have 2 daughters before I'm 30 because I wouldn't know how to look after a baby boy" Well I did get married, & I did have 2 daughters before I was 30, as it turned out. Now our eldest daughter has had 2 daughters, but we're still waiting of our 2nd daughter to fall pregnant, with her 1st baby.
I've 3 adult females and would have liked 6 but doctor warned me not to have more as the last one was almost 12lb and with pre - eclampsia and 2 caesars already, wasn't going to be safe enough for all concerned. I'm grateful though. All are healthy with families of their own so what more could I ask for.