Good question! People definitely do start asking whether you're finished having kids once you have two, especially if you have "one of each." The sheer number of people who have said to me "you can stop now" since I have a boy and a girl almost makes me want to have a dozen more kids just to be contrary. Almost, but I won't.
Knowing when your family is complete is very personal and it can be hard to be certain. For me a lot of different factors have gone into the decision to stop at two (finances, the size of our home, my age and other things I won't go into here). It makes me a bit wistful at times but I think the fact that I've been able to start getting rid of all our baby stuff is a good sign.
We've been blessed with two boys and are now being asked whether we'll try for a girl. Don't think people understand that it's not a case of choosing the sex. It makes me want to be contrary and birth a whole football team of gorgeous little boys!!
I think you feel it, but also I think it's worth thinking about how old you'll be when they're 15 - the baby part is a breeze but you will need energy when they're teens...so I think that needs to be taken into the equation...
1.Your body is the best indication....am I able in my body & mind ?
2.Can we afford another child later ?
3.Can I do this all again ....early waking, feeds, on call 24 hrs a day etc ?
If you can say yes to everything, then you more than likely could go another time.
For most women it is like race you run!...after your first child there is a chance, you could do it again.
After the second child, the race is a tad uphill...and you ask yourself, do I have enough energy, to run again.Some women find it better to put a few years in between each time they do have a child....just so one is in school.
There are women in the world who just love being pregnant... and that is no excuse to have children.
I had my first two 18 months apart, so they could be best friends...and they are.As two grown men now, there is no age difference.
I planned to have another child again....but I wanted to have that child when my other two boys were around 12 & 14....which is just what I did.
It was a wonderful experience, and how life had many new exciting days ahead.
Any child has to be 'wanted' big time....when planning a family.
When I was 18, I used to say, “If I ever get married I’d like to have only 2 daughters, because I wouldn’t know how to look after a boy baby, before I’m 30", & I did just that, so it was easy to know when I had finished having kids!