They are number 1 on my most hated list, for behaviour in people.
I have to stand up to them, and I do.
My last boss was in part a ''bully'.
Having had a lot of bosses like this, only the last 20 yrs, have I stood up to them.
You can not show fear with them...When confronting any bully, you need to treat that person sad to say:''Like they mean totally Nothing to you''.
Those feelings will be picked up by them. and it is part of your 'protection'.
Not easy to do, but if you need to deal with them. they have to know first hand you are not scared of them.That is the winning card!
my daughter was bullied at school when in 2nd class many years ago this girl would punch and kick her in the morning , as a result she did not want to walk into the school by herself, I told her to kick the girl back, her answer was she will still kick me, anyway the result was no more punching or kicking from this girl. I did check it out and walked in with her and watched to see what this girl was doing before telling her what to do, useless in those days to tell a teacher they were not interested
yes, over a period of 4 years. But I won in the end. Never back down from a bully, don't go to a union for help, do absolutely get legal advice or better still representation. At the very first instance go to your GP and report the first incident of bullying or what you consider to be bullying. Every time something happens go to your GP and report it - that it is making you feel threatened etc.
Documentation is a necessary action, but following up with someone that matters like a GP is an even better idea.
Yes, on several occasions, throughout my working career.
Suffice to say, I didn't have a problem with said persons ever again!
Being now retired, I had the ultimate 'last laugh'.
Popped back to see work mates week before XMAS last year.
One woman, who'd been a 'bully' towards me, wanted to chat. In that conversation, she told me of some very sad, life changing things that had occurred to her in the previous 18 months'. (Since I'd retired).
To me, it was if 'karma' had hit her well & truly! In hindsight, I think our work 'relationship' was one of a literal clash of personalities, as we were both 'strong' persons. Neither would 'back down' in any given situation. Also, my work experience was far greater than hers, & I believe, she was very jealous of that. It was a 'I could do her job, but she couldn't do mine' sort of scenario.
Anyway, on that day, she seemed to me to be very vulnerable, & I took it as a 'compliment' that SHE wanted to talk to ME about HER problems!
I really felt sorry for her circumstances. She told me she's not long off retirement herself, & is looking forward to it!
Life does really have some twists & turns, doesn't it!