My husband is my second marriage. My first husband and I split up almost 20 years ago now. I married too young and for all the wrong reasons. But I like to think that sometimes you have to get it wrong in order to know how to get it right.
I have lived in a defacto relationship when I was 21 t013, then I did not get into a relationship again for some years. I then lived defacto with the man who I ended up marrying,and having my beloved son with. After that relationship ended,I decided to concentrate on raising my son who was not quite 9 at the time of the break-up. I have happily lived with my own company ever sice!!! I do have my 3 fabulous dogs who ALWAYS make me feel needed and loved!!
I have occasionally thought it would be nice to know I would grow old with someone special,but I now really don't think it is going to happen unless someone waves a magic wand!! Unlike my dad and darling step mum who yesterday celebrated their 40th wedding anniversary!! Both had sworn off second marriages,but it was truly love at first sight when they met on Adele's 30th birthday!! Dad is 15 years older than she is, and she had a young daughter when they met. As a 17 year old,and having lost my own mum to a sudden heart condition when she was only 42,I was utterly delighted to suddenly have a gorgeous little sister,as well as a super new friend in her mum.We have all always been close even though we live so far apart.I am so lucky and proud to have such a decent and lovely family second time around;though in my own case,I shall stick with my Fur Babies for now!!!!
Married my first girlfriend when I was 25. We gave our virginity to each other as a wedding present. Still going strong (actually happier than ever) after 21 years, a daughter, several dogs, cats, and numerous chooks! I think it's that way because we've done what Finy recommends (i.e. respect each other and do what it takes to make it work the first time). I think when we're young, we tend to think more about our own happiness than our partner's or the "couple's" happiness. If we focus more on giving than what we get from a relationship (i.e. putting the partner first), the "couple's" happiness looks after itself.
Of course, there are always exceptions - beaters and other mongrels, but I'd like to think they are in the minority.
Yes, fran, you're right.....'chalk & cheese' describes us, too!
Himself, Scientist with Degree's in Chemistry,& Bus.Mgt., & M.Sc., no 'horse sense', poor 'personnel skills'.
Me, no Degrees', many Trade Certifs'., though. I 'carried' him personality wise, for four decades'.
AND I won't start on his parents'...............
My first husband was so lazy and totally dominated by his 4'11" mother. He left me and our 4 year old daughter for her which was a blessing in disguise. Now 39 years later and two more girls we are indeed a happy family and the best times are still happening.
I've had long term relationship s but never wanted to get married I didn't like the feeling of entrapment after seeing my parents ww3 marriage. Im happy with myself and company. I have beautiful dog's that show me unconditional love everyday .