Women who homebirth often find others make judging comments to them. Image courtesy of Wikimedia Commons
Every day I hear of a woman feeling judged because of her birthing choices - whether it be homebirth, elective caesarean, vaginal birth after caesarean or simply because she is the one making the choice. Do you think that women are often judged for the birthing choices they make?
I'm in a LOT of birth oriented facebook groups and the amount of judgement in some of them is scary! If you homebirth you're a crazy hippy and if you have an elective caesarean you're brainwashed. And heaven help if you simply feel that you have a right to make your own informed choice! Respect is NOT just something to show people we agree with - whether I would make the same choice as a woman should NEVER mean that her choice is not the absolute best for her.
Definitely. Women can't win, no matter what they choose. Homebirthers get called crazy or accused of not having their child's best interests at heart, as do women attempting VBACs. I must confess I used to look down on women who chose elective caesarean, but I came to realise that there can be good reasons women choose it, besides it being none of my business. And yes, I think sometimes women are judged simply for wanting a choice at all. I had someone tell me I shouldn't go to prenatal classes because "there's nothing to know, you just do what they tell you to on the day." I've heard people say that women have no right to complain about anything their doctor did, even if he overrode her wishes, because "he knew best." Women's bodily autonomy is disturbingly undervalued.
It needs to stop.
As we enter into 2015, people need to keep their Idea's-Opinions
out of the heads of new Mothers.
We are not in 1915.
Leave well alone, women know what is best, and unless a Dr feels it could be life or death......It's nothing to do with others.
I think with birthing, women seem to know very much what is right...and they know when to call for help.
They are the only ones who have the true insight to how things feel, and are progressing, or not.