I don't think it depends on the amount of children you have.
Children are not a commodity.
They are a lot of hard work....
I have a friend who is one of 17.
That makes me see things in a very different light, they all had to go without, and really 'how' could a parent fully give if there are another 16 waiting.
Sure we are now talking only about 4, but even then that is a great deal of responsibility.
Same go's for parents who (already) do not give to the 1 -2 or 3 they already have.
Can you give too much?
1 child I have found can take up a great part of one's time.If you want to invest into that child that they have, a good childhood.
When I had my 3rd child, I made sure my other 2 sons were teenagers.I wanted one at that time in my life, and it worked out perfect.
4 children is quite a lot, and they all have their own needs, and wants.
It is not about the parents....but can one provide the right amount of love, care and support in all ways for the children you already have.
It is not 'cheaper by the dozen', as one famous movie once said.
I am against people having children for the heck of it.Each child should have their own needs met, not throw them all together out the backyard and 'they will be right', as they play.
What about the other 22 hrs in the day?
I would like to ask the question:
'Do we think children with 4 or more siblings get enough attention and love'?
I imagine that depends on a lot of things. I've met some mums of four or more kids who don't seem to be happier than I am (with just 2 kids) because they are so stressed out all the time. Then there are others who seems to be very happy with the chaos of a big family. It probably has a lot to do with whether both parents are sharing the responsiblities of their large family equally or if it's mostly falling on just one person.
I think it depends on the individuals involved. I have met parents of large families who are happy and some unhappy. I believe that you have to be content with the family you have wether large or small.
I think happiness is relative and it has little to do with how many children you have. If you are not happy without children, don't think having children will make any difference. Don't have children as a cure for boredom or depression. It just won't help. Happiness is internal and a state of being. External factors like how many children you have or how much money you have will not create a happy state. They are not related at all. If you go into childrearing with the attitude that you will be happy if you have children could be a real disappointment when reality hits. Same as people who have lots of children to save an ailing marriage. Any problems you have will always be there despite the number of children you have