No ... The ones who were buried died a long time ago and the cemeteries are very far from where we live. My father was cremated so mum still has his ashes, but really I don't think my loved ones who have passed as still with their bodies anyway, they have moved on to another place.
I visit my uncle, parents and myself (I bought a plot next to my mother) on any occasion. Their birthday, my birthday, anniversary of their death day, Mother's and Father's Day, Easter which works out about once a month.. the Cemetary is in close proximity to where I live so it's no effort to visit, however they are always in my thoughts so it's not really physically necessary to visit for those who are unable to visit.
Husband was putting our 5-year-old granddaughter to bed with the usual stories, both printed and madeup. Grandad: These are special times which I hope you will remember when you are older. Granddaughter: I know you won't be around when I'm grown up, but I'll visit your grave.
He didn't have the heart to tell her it would probably be a niche in a wall.
We go to the crematorium to visit our relative son birthdays, Mother's Day, Father's Day and at Christmas. I go for my Mum's sake more than anything. I don't feel like I get a lot out of the visit. I don't need to go to the crematorium to remember everyone,me have great memories if them all especially my Dad.
There are no cemeteries where I live but when ever I have the chance I tend to visit, not so much to visit loved ones, mine aren't exactly buried in a cemetery. most of them are right in my back yard. I do have an appreciation for cemeteries However, especially the big ones where the graves are creatives or have interesting features like statues and cherubs and such. sometimes the headstones are very interesting in terms of what people decide to write on them.
so while i am not going to visit loved ones I go, just to have a look.
In my back yard however, yeah,its to sit and have some quiet reflection. remembering the love ones lost.
No, we have cremations. My parents' ashes were spread in the sea, clean and free in our minds. I will have the same.
When our l7 year old dog died, we had him cremated and his ashes spread in the sea at the beach where he loved to run.
No never, because they've always been cremated, although i have walked around cemeteries in Paris France, for hours & hours, reading headstones. We've even taken our lunch in there twice! I've also looked around in a Suva cemetery, 1 in the Shire, & 1 down the south coast. If I was doing the driving, I'd be stopping at every cemetery I saw to read the lovely headstones.
Yes. He is still in my cupboard and likely to stay with me. I guess after we are gone, my stepson will "take charge" of him. It is a sad thing to think of where relatives may end up if nobody is left :(
Rice, I know what you mean. I had my mother's mother's ashes in an urn, in my bedroom, as a teenager, & years after my father died, we scattered his ashes around his favourite rose bush which was a very dark red 1, called, I think, Black Boy, below his bedroom window. The house & garden are all gone now. We now have my b-i-law's ashes, & his wife's, (who had died 2 years previously) under our house, in the urns. We couldn't leave them around their 2 rosebushes, because the house will be sold, & then knocked down for 4 units or 1 very large house. (Not by us, of cause!) They didn't have children.) So we still don't know what we're going to do with them. Are you still hanging on to your f-i-l? After our 1st cruise, I thought I'd always loved to have my ashes scattered at sea, but that is certainly not allowed anymore.