As a Childcare worker discipline is all about getting down at the child's level, asking them open ended questions to find out why they did what they did and moving the child away from that place or activity. I try to do this with my own son. Yelling doesn't normally work it just makes the child fear you. For young children it helps to think about the circumstances such as being over tired, hungry, unwell, full or even needing to go to the toilet. Understanding the underlying issue can help to elevate the stress of the incident for both you and the child. It doesn't excuse the behaviour but it can help you handle it and turn it into a learning experience for your child. I think it works to take the child away from the scene or take away the object. Once they are doing another activity and have calmed down then have a chat to them ask them why, what could have happened and a better well to deal with their emotions. Eg. Say 'If you don't play with that car properly I will have to take it away.' If they continue take the car put it up high and say, 'You are not playing with it properly so I will have to put it away for a little while'. Tears, yelling or a tantrum may occur but the child needs to learn. Try to distract them with some other activity. Then once they are calmed down chat about how to play with the cars properly and ask the child why the car was taken away. Give them the opportunity to try playing with the car properly. If they do praise their efforts! Distraction is a great tool to use trying to explain reason to a angry, stressed child is useless wait till they calm down then chat with them about what happened. Remember it's the child's behaviour that upset you not the child as a person.
Yes I have always disciplined my son, when he was small he would go in the naughty corner if he misbehaved. I never believed in smacking so the naughty corner was a good alternative. Now that he is 12 years old, I find I rarely have to discipline him.
Yes, I do disciplined my son if not he will sail through wrong path which is not good for him or for a parent. Discipline leads to great heights in the future which is difficult at times during childhood to accept by themselves or as a strange person who feels that we are too strict towards the child. From their childhood times if we teach good things in good manner they accept it lifelong I assure they never forget and follow same passed on to the next gen too....!
I think it is imperative to teach your children the good and the bad.Mostly they are going to pick it from u and your partner by the way you live.Disciplining is fine as long as it doesn't go overboard and takes the fun out in living.