No,I give to whom,when and what I wish to give simply because it is my desire to do so,not because it is an obligation! Once any sense of Obligation comes into play the gift whether given or received,has no meaning at all to me.This is so annoying to me ,the way some people give,give,give to all and sundry, and usually way beyond their means as well,only to be very put out when the same is not done to them!!! I always feel that the best and most real gift I can give is The Gift of Genuine Friendship.I am very serious about my own obligation attached to THIS particular gift!!!
I can imagine how it can be embarrassing, but over the years I have learnt that gifts and presents are related directly how you feel about a person and these are matters of the heart. If someone gives you a present out of their love for you, then the question about returning the love is less important, as compared to letting the person who has given the gift know how much you appreciate the sentiment behind the giving. I just think that giving and receiving gifts matter only when you want to give and receive as opposed to doing it out of compulsion.
No. I'm with you Finy. I used to feel so bad about this but now it doesn't bother me. I know that I choose to give presents because I want to, not out of obligation so if someone buys me a gift I don't necessarily feel obliged to give them one back.