I can only do this when they are asleep or being babysat by someone who loves them as much as we do. Someone I know they are safe and happy with and I am out somewhere fun that's the only time I can wind down.
No. Even if your kids are well behave, you will constantly worry about them. Even when they are adults. A good example is when my mum (of 59) and I went out into town, and were back later than expected. My granddad got extremely panicky . Once you have kids, you can never relax.
Having had my children, then once again when they were grown up, starting Again!!!! I can write a book on it.So I have had a child constantly at home for 37 years without a break....(and the last one is still home).
What you now need to do, is talk with your husband or partner.Once the last child is in bed(and asleep)...That is then your 'clocking off' Starts".
In other words, say that you are 'needing' time-out.That you can not wind down.
Remember, once they start school....you have the day, to take your time to get things done, in peace and quite.
So until that happens, you must have that time once, they are all in bed.
No washing up, doing any moping, or any other thing.You have to take a stand.
Even if you just go and lay on the bed for 30 mins of silence.Listening to children all day, every day is a big job for anyone.Not to mention the huge effort mothers put in, to their needs and wants.
Try not to run a very tight 'ship', in other words let a few jobs go...It's not the end of the world.It took me many years to work that one out.
Good question! Maybe not .. or at least it feels like that. My oldest two have just started school this year .. and for the first time in about 7 years (we home schooled for a while) I'm getting a chance to relax.