Every child is different and families have their own unique dynamics and goals. There is a lot of societal and 'expert' opinion around coaching independence in children and 'spoiling' children. But people's views differ as do the needs of each child. Can you do too much for you kids? When is it too much?
I don't know if you can overdo it. I think it is important to explain to the children why we are doing the things we do for them and let them know that it is a privilege for them, not their right. They need to know not to take things for granted. I also try to show them the less privileged side of the world. I think children need to be grateful and appreciative of what their parents do for them. I also ask them that if at any time, they feel something is not working, they should be able to have a candid discussion with me. They are only 8 and 6 at this time, so I am expecting more of the candid talks in about 4 more years?!?!