Counsellor & Psychotherapist
Masters of Counselling & Psychotherapy UofA
Member of the ACA College of Supervisors
Level 3 Member Australian Counselling Association
I hope that I am as my Mother was a wonderful person who made me laugh all the time.
However, sadly, I think I am far more stressed than my Mum was.
As far as doing things the same as my Mum, yes I believe I do -I vowed NEVER to force my children to sit at the table till they finished their meal, and that was something in later years that I certainly did.
I also vowed not to worry like my Mum, yet I worry much more.
Those are just a few things and I believe most of us do things like our Mothers as that is what we "know" and have learnt in earlier life.
I wish I were more like my Mum - except for the worrying. I've worked hard not to be as big a worrier as she was. But I've let my kids be fussy eaters as she did ( I remember feeling sorry for my friends with tough parents. I still remember how disgusting mashed pumpkin was) and I let my kids leave games all over the place if they weren't ready to pack up. We once had Barbieville in the lounge (including a potted plant forest) for a week.
I don't have kids, so can't comment from a parental point of view, but I definitely think I like a lot of things my mum likes that I never used to, share a number of her traits, and do things she does. There are also things that as a kid she would tell me to do/not to do that I thought were stupid, or didn't understand. I completely agree with her now though, and would be teaching the same thing to my kids if I had them. A lot of these things are generally about the proper way to behave in public, such as keeping your feet off the seats on public transport.
I don't think so, as I think I've found my own path in life and opinions that are very different from hers. However, I admire her a lot for who she is, and a lot of her personal values and the things she taught me are ones I hold very dear and have tried to pass on to my own daughter.
I am like my mother thank God. Never was til I was about 50.
Now that my daughter has a child, she is treating me the same way I treated my mother. But, on matters of child rearing, I always followed my mother's advice (because she had had 5 children) and I only had one. I knew that, therefore,I didn't have the experience that she had had. In that way, my daughter is not like me.
I wish my mother was still alive so that I could simply tell her that she really was a "super mum" unlike some of the would-be super mothers of today.