I am slightly controlling (have had to be in control as a sole parente with my son since he was 18 months old)...and, have been rather argumentative in the past but nowadays..whether I am mellowing or what....I don't seem to be, just can't be bothered really, everyone has their opinion and I don't want hassles anymore...I tend to just avoid that person or situation (not the best solution, especially if it is a family member)
I used to be a bit more controlling than I am now. After getting married and having children, I have learned that there are alternative ways of doing things than being in control all the time. I do have my opinions but I don't assert them on anyone.
I'm not a 'argumentative type' of person.
It takes a bit to get me going really.
If I find someone is 'trying to upset me' or they are trying to be 'smart', I will after a while say something.
As far as 'Controlling'', yes I control what happens in my life, to the very best I can.Only because I have had too.
Not out of choice, that's for sure. How we deal with people is the key, not who is right who is wrong.
I try to take into consideration that they have their own feelings about life, even
when it is 100% correct or totally dead wrong.
What I have found in these days of ours how are people are less 'willing'' to hear more than their own ideas.