I no longer have a partner, so I do not have any disagreements any more.
When I did have a partner there were plenty of disagreements however he didnt really speak to me at all for the last 3 months so we did not argue. I just went about being upset at this situation all the time.
I cannot stand it when someone will not communicate.
I used to carry on the resentment for days sometimes, and he carried it for years and years and kept bringing up things that happened 15 years earlier, so NO we definitely did not make up before going to sleep.
He was a FIFO worker and never made up even if I tried -he would just not answer or talk to me.
Wow, glad I am out of that one!
Never let the sun go down on an argument! This is one of the earliest lessons taught to me by my parents when I was a small girl. I do nolt hold grudges over silly arguments at all,as this is such a waste of time and alos energy!! If something is freally serious,it HAS to be discussed or walked away from completely.if it is possible to do so.
Not applicable nowdays but in the past...no not all the time, being human there were times when we would make up before going to sleep but also some times when we 'turned our backs' and went to sleep....well he prob did (snoring away) but I would prob cry for a bit before falling asleep eventually!
No, I can carry it on for days even weeks if I feel the need to. Don't like the idea of going to bed and "making up". I think he would get the wrong idea and think that he was so wonderful in the cot that that was all he had to do to either make me given in on the argument OR to forget the argument. Nup - until he sees that I am in the right during the argument, then he just has to suffer.
We hardly ever have an argument, & we've always kissed before bedtime. Well I kiss him before I go to bed, as he's still up, & he goes to bed hours after me, usually. So I'm guessing we've had 2/3 before bedtime arguments in 48 years, without making up & about that same amount, when we did make up before going to bed. My mother had also always told me to makeup before bed time, if we had a argument, or a 'tiff' I do remember it being called once.
Once we didn't, this year, but all was ok by the following afternoon. But the argument my husband had with our eldest daughter about her partner 1 night, 3 & 1/2 hears ago, is still ongoing. He's only seen her once since then, & that was only for 1 minute! I think life it far to short to carry on like that!